Finn’s father is fixated on teaching his son not to mix up his Lego playsets. Finn’s dad a.k.a. The Man Upstairs decides to Krazy Glue his ideal Lego constructions together. Finn’s natural creativity is being quashed. This is the conundrum that must be solved in The Lego Movie.
A conundrum that’s reflected in men’s actual lives. Do we live according to the Krazy Glued ideals of being a man or according to our natural desire for something more creative? Because you can’t live life according to both.
The Krazy Glued ideal of being a man is that sense of entitlement to power & control.
Many Christian & Muslim men in Britain have power & control in society, in our churches & mosques, politically & economically – & some men do not.
For those who embody positions of power, life can become centred on maintaining that power. For those of us who do not have equal access to privilege, life can become centred on protest until we achieve the same power we feel entitled to.
But for most men life is not that simple. We might hold to the masculine ideal of power & control but our actual lives often don’t match up to it, or we cannot maintain the control we desire. It is because of these mismatches & tensions that some men choose to abuse women in the home.
Christian & Muslim men believe it is not in our nature to be violent against women – God did not create us that way.
As I heard Michael Kaufman say recently at Being A Man Festival, “To say men are violent against women by nature is much too low a view of men”.
So why did we face such a flood of men abusing women last year? 1.1 million women survived domestic violence in Britain in 2013, predominantly at the hands of men. Why do we blokes tolerate the fact that 5 million British women or 30% of the female population have experienced domestic violence since the age of 16?
Surely a sense of entitlement to power & control over women is at war with the heart of man. We must let go of this false ideal, this ideal often concealed by crude comedy. Let go bro!
Because it’s a tragedy when you watch the man who thinks ‘control’s my middle name’ but it’s Jon.
Join us as we regenerate a way of being men free from power & control over women & free from hidden abuse in the home.